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What to Expect When You Stop Dieting

By:
Andrea Quigley Maynard
This content originally appeared on 

When nothing is off limits to your diet anymore, sometimes you don't have a clue what you want to eat anymore! You might wonder what to expect when you stop dieting once and for all and how life will be different.

Humans love to collect evidence and data to help influence their decisions, it helps us to feel confident we're making the right decision. We read reviews before making a big purchase, we research a company before accepting a new job, we ask friends for recommendations when planning a vacation. Sure, some of us like to jump off willy nilly and be spontaneous when trying new things, but more of us like to have as much info a possible! So, for you, my friend, who is currently googling how to stop dieting or what to expect when you go off a diet, this post is for you.

What Happens When You Stop Dieting

Expect people to ask you questions about what you are eating or not eating. When you've been dieting for years or eating a certain "way" (i.e. dairy free, vegan, paleo, "clean," etc.) people come to expect certain behaviors of you. Especially if you were someone who was very vocal about what you were or weren't eating. Even if you weren't vocal, if you were someone who ate very differently from everyone around you, people noticed.

People are going to notice changes from what you do normally, even if you don't want them to. A lot of folks think when they make an eating change it's something that they will do forever and is permanent, but people change their minds and what foods work best for our bodies change over time too. It's okay to do things differently.

Be prepared for lots of questions and decide ahead of time if you are interested in sharing about your journey.  If you aren't comfortable discussing the reasons you are eating the way you are (there are many reasons people don't want to discuss their eating habits), all you have to do is say "I don't feel like discussing my eating choices. Thanks for respecting that" or something like it!  You are not obligated to talk about this stuff to anyone you don't want to, but just know that if you were chatty about it before, people may not "get" that it's not something you want to discuss now and you may have to repeat yourself a couple of times before people "hear" you.

Know that these questions aren't usually a judgment about you or your choices, people are just very curious about how others eat. They're often looking to understand the reasons behind a change. Frequently we think other people must have more information or knowledge about something than we do, especially in this day and age of health information overload so to see someone who others assume is very knowledgeable about food and health eat foods that may have been off limits for years is a big surprise and they're just trying to make sense of it.

You Might Gain Weight

Know that you might gain weight. Or you might lose weight. Or your weight may stay the same. I think this is the thing that freaks people out the most when they stop counting calories or start eating foods that they haven't allowed themselves to have for a decade. If they had to do x, y and z to maintain or lose weight before, won't not doing those things automatically lead to weight gain? That's not something anyone can have the answer for ahead of time. Everyone is different.

Most often I see people gain weight initially as they start allowing themselves to explore foods they haven't had in years and as they try to understand their own hunger and fullness signals. Some of those folks do lose that weight naturally over time, but there is no guarantee and it's not helpful for us to hold onto that goal as we try to get back to eating the way our bodies would prefer us to eat.

The best thing you can do when you decide to stop dieting is to allow your body to do what it needs to do as you start to experience food in a more intuitive way (letting go of the desire to lose weight or control your weight is too big a topic for me to cover in this post). Listen to your body and see what you can learn from it (and try not to judge the changes that may happen during this time period).

You may realize you don't like some of the foods you thought you liked. How many of us convince ourselves that we like rice cakes instead of bread or crackers? How many of us still buy rice cakes after we stop dieting? A lot! Rice cakes are such a common "diet" food that entire generations of women buy them even when they're not dieting just because we're so used to that kind of food.

But when no food is off limits and there aren't strict rules to follow around food, you start to notice some of the weird diet habits you have and will have to decide if that's something you want to keep. Rice cakes are just one example but there are tons of other foods that we start eating because of a belief that they are "healthier" or because they are low calorie, but when it comes down to it, we don't enjoy eating them and they're not adding anything nutritionally to our diet.

On the other end of the spectrum, last weekend, I ordered a jelly donut for the first time in years while grabbing a coffee at a drive thru. I was really excited to eat that donut as I thought about what it was going to taste like. But in reality, the texture was denser than I was expecting and the filling and dough itself tasted almost salty to me. It was not good and I didn't finish it. I make a lot of food from scratch and have for many years (including my desserts) so when I eat something heavily and cheaply processed (like from a donut chain) my taste buds say "NO WAY." Not dieting means every food will feel and taste differently than you remember it!

Your Social Media Strategy

You're going to unfollow and unfriend lots of people on social media. The "hide" button on Facebook has become my favorite thing these days. The amount of people trying to sell weight loss as the cure for all your problems seems enormous when you stop dieting. And suddenly your whole social media newsfeed is full of smoothie bowls, juice cleanses, and powdered shake before-and-after photos.

You start to notice how often people say terrible things about their bodies (I've been no stranger to this myself - always working on it), how often they say terrible things about other people's bodies and how much energy, effort, and money goes into attempting to achieve a particular body type. It's all you can see sometimes. Use that unfollow or hide button and start clicking away more on the profiles and people who post the things that matter to you more. Cultivate a social media feed that is more of what you want to see.

You may feel like you have a never-ending hunger and want to eat all the things. Relax! This usually goes away as your brain starts to get the message that there isn't a famine going on anymore. Allow yourself to eat as much as you need and want. I know that feels terrifying after coming off of a diet but it's also what your body has been programmed to do. It wants to make sure you get what you need so it will increase the hormone ghrelin so that you feel hungry. Eat. Let your body know that you will satisfy your hunger. Don't restrict. Don't try to go hungry (you'll just keep your body in a bit of panic about getting enough food). Trust your body, fuel it, feed it and listen to what it tells you.

You may experience some digestive discomfort (like bloating and gas) as you introduce foods you haven't had in years or eat a larger quantity than you are used to. Drink extra water, make sure you get some physical activity (walking is great for digestion), and chew well. Some of this is just your body trying to break down different or a higher quantity of food which can be a little taxing on your system (taking a digestive enzyme at mealtimes can help temporarily). It's no big deal.

If it keeps up over time, pay it a little more attention. Is it a particular food or food group that is causing you trouble? Is it when you eat it a certain way (for example, raw vs cooked vegetables or fried vs. baked chicken)? Note what might be causing it and decide if the discomfort you feel is worth the enjoyment and experience of eating the food.

For some of us, if we feel terrible after eating something it's enough to say, ugh, I don't want that anymore. For others it's not enough, and it's up to you to decide what you are willing to deal with. Here's an example from my own life:  Eating dairy daily triggers my asthma really badly. I no longer eat it daily . . .but eating ice cream once in awhile is totally ok. I have weighed the repercussions of eating it and I'm willing to live with the discomfort that comes with occasional enjoyment because butter crunch and black raspberry are worth it.

You'll start to feel like you don't know what you want to eat. Previously, in a lifetime of dieting, there were always foods that you wished you could have or were waiting for a "cheat meal" to enjoy your favorite foods. But now that you will allow yourself whatever you truly want, when you want, after you've satisfied that for a while, you'll find that meal time comes and you often have no clue what you feel like eating. Haha! Nothing will really appeal and ordering off a menu or making a meal plan for home will feel extra arduous. Just go with it, it will pass, like everything else!

You may feel a little bit alone. When you aren't dieting, you start to notice that every woman around you at any given time is doing at least one of the following: A) Dieting, B) Doing a LIfestyle Change (like Whole30), C) On a Cleanse/Detox, D) is eating "Clean" or E) Doing some sort of 30-day fitness challenge.

No judgements from me on what other people decide to do (I've been everywhere in my eating journey over the years), but when you've decide to try to find freedom with food and for you that means no more diets or rules, then all of a sudden having lunch with your coworkers who want to spend the whole time discussing what they AREN'T eating anymore can feel a bit distressing. When you get together with your girlfriends, it can feel like they're bonding over something they all have in common while you sit there in silence, no longer willing to participate in that kind of conversation. It's challenging. You'll feel like you're sticking out like a sore thumb, because everyone else is doing it but you. But that's ok!

Find a way to change the conversation to something more helpful, interesting, and positive if you can. Ask people about their families, about the music they like to listen to, if they've got any fun upcoming travel plans, or if they believe in past lives. Ask questions that have nothing to do with health, food, or fitness (even though we all currently LOVE to talk about that stuff). A year from now no one will remember what diet details someone shared at lunch but they will remember the engaging and interesting person who asked them lots of questions about their life. You'll make new relationships and find people who also are on the same path with you this way.

Okay, there are certainly way more things that will happen when you stop dieting than just these but for the sake of brevity I'm going to stop it there! Some of these things may sound like negatives at first, but I think if you stay firm in your desire not to diet anymore and tune in to trusting yourself and your body to lead you, you will find that it's actually a much better place to be. You'll start to see that not focusing on how food affects your weight so much actually allows you to experience and enjoy life more fully, and isn't that what it's really about anyhow? I think so!